I weighed myself the other day. BIG MISTAKE. I vowed not to weigh myself until after the baby was born as I had a mini-meltdown during my first trimester when I stepped on the scales. And yes, my weight gain should be the last thing on my mind as it’s all about a healthy baby – but I would be lying to say that I have not struggled with the changing shape of my body. They say if you were classed as a 'normal weight' pre-pregnancy, on average you put on one-and-a-half to to two-and-a-half stone throughout your pregnancy. I have passed that and still 7 weeks to go! But I’m thinking my boobs must weigh about one stone each – so really I’ve put on a stone. That’s not too bad. There is just so much pressure on women to look a certain way during/after pregnancy – especially when you see pictures of gorgeous celebs with a tiny bump who snap back into shape in weeks shoved in front of you on daily basis. But at the end of the day, as my husband said – “you are carrying a baby!” I haven’t just had too many pies. I have been exercising, staying as active as I can, eating healthy – but also giving into my cravings at the same time. This is obviously just the way my body responds to pregnancy. Some women will put on a huge amount of weight, some women won’t. And it’s all okay. It’s an amazing thing my body is going through – and I feel so lucky – but it doesn’t stop the tears or the days where I look in the mirror and think – JESUS CHRIST. But I am determined to just keep on exercising, be as active as I can but still eat chocolate when I want and just enjoy the rest of my pregnancy. If there is one time you cannot feel guilty for putting on weight – it is when you’re pregnant. So pass me the cake!
I’m waddling into my 33rd week now and baby is the size of a cauliflower. I can feel the little rascal booting me in my ribs now. I had a midwife appointment last week and all is well and Bear is growing nicely. I’m lucky as living in Scotland, they have introduced a baby box which I have just sent off for. It really should be something all women get - wherever they are in the world. It’s fantastic and full of some much-needed items and the premise behind it is that all babies are given a good start in life, so I’m excited for that to arrive.
My husband and I also attended out first antenatal class this weekend. I go to relaxation classes separately but these classes are specifically to talk about Labour, the Early Days and Breastfeeding. This week was on Labour. What was great was the midwife really focused on what the partners should be doing throughout each stage of labour (feed, water, emotional and physical support, make sure I go to the loo). Most of the men to start with looked like rabbits in headlights but they seemed to be reassured along the way. My husband said, although I knew some of the answers to the questions the midwife was asking, I didn’t come across as a 'know-it-all twat', so that was nice of him to say. We also had a look round the labour suite and saw the birthing pool; which was exciting. I have decided that I will be (as long as baby is healthy) having the baby at my local hospital (five minutes from me) – which is completely midwife-led. I felt to start with I was (not intentionally) made to panic a bit from others who made me think – ‘what if something goes wrong and you have to be transferred to the nearby hospital where doctors are on hand?’ Also, what happens if I want all the drugs? (No epidural available at this hospital). But I feel calm, excited and want to remain positive. A short ambulance ride will not be the end of the world. And plus, my husband (as long as he makes the labour!) will be able to stay the night with me and the baby in my local hospital, which I think is amazing.
We’ve been thinking about names along the way and have a few ideas for boys and girls – but still seem to be more stuck on a girl’s name than a boy’s name. One of the baby name books I have offered some advice on picking a name:
So what are my highs and lows of the week?
High of the week: Last weekend we had a little going away party/baby shower for one of my friends on the patch. We all had great fun playing this game - Porn or Labour? My husband got them all right in seconds. Have a go! (Mum don't be traumatised).
Low of the week: Getting on those scales…never again.
Pregnancy rage: Remember when I said my husband was drinking last weekend? Well he woke me up at 2am lying on the doorstep, covered in mud. That was fun.
Product of the week: I could not resist this! https://www.patpat.com
Advice of the week: 'Do not weigh yourself.' Need I say more?
Exercise: Mainly walking this week - been so tired and really out of breath.
Cravings: Pancakes - I had six for breakfast yesterday. With fruit I may add.
So that's me for this week! If you have any ideas for baby's names - please let me know - especially girls! TIA.
So I’m 32 weeks on Sunday! It is crazy to think that at 32 weeks, my mum gave birth to me and my brother (twins). I can’t imagine giving birth now. I’m happy to wait a few more weeks, but I know I have no control over when baby comes out – would be nice though wouldn’t it?
So I’m back to work now after over a week off. I’d happily be on maternity leave right now to be honest! Sitting at a desk all day is not helping my back pain – but I really shouldn’t complain as there are so many pregnant women working on their feet all day. But I'd still take early maternity leave - or a lottery win.
The nursery furniture is all assembled thanks to my husband and the generous help of one of his friends. And it really is beautiful – by far my favourite room in the house. We still need to decorate more and have a few more bits to get, but this is it so far.....can you guess what the theme is?! (Please ignore the delightful magnolia walls and brown carpets you are blessed with in military accommodation.)
As well as getting the nursery sorted, we went back to the North East for a few days where we were given so many baby gifts, so we are feeling very, very lucky! Seeing friends and family was great – and it was so lovely to see how excited they are. Many of our family and friends have been guessing what sex the baby will be. I am strangely adamant it’s a boy – my husband thinks girl – as does my mum and SIL. My friend had a dream that I had a girl....with loads of hair so maybe that is a premonition. What do you think from my 20-week scan picture? He/she is definitely saluting here!
For fun, my husband and I thought we would look at the old wives’ tales of whether you are carrying a boy or a girl, which I found on http://babyandbump.momtastic.com/gender-prediction/506423-big-list-all-old-wives-tales-baby-gender.html, so what did we find out….
Old Wives Tale #1: Heart Rate
If the baby’s heart rate is above 140 bpm, it is said that the baby will be a girl. If it is under 140 bpm, then it will be a boy. (Bear’s heartbeat has always been under 140.) Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #2: Shape of Belly
If you are carrying high with a big, round belly, you are having a girl. If you are carrying low with a smaller belly that sticks straight out, it’s a boy. (I am (I think!) carrying low and my belly sticks out. what do you think?) Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #3: Ring Test
Using a string, hang your wedding ring over your pregnant belly. You are having a girl if the ring swings back and forth and it’s a boy if it swings in a circle. (This never works for me, one time it was a boy and one time it was a girl. And other tests I've seen online say that it's a boy for back and forth and a girl for circle.) Prediction outcome: INCONCLUSIVE
Old Wives Tale #4: Acne
If you have acne while pregnant, it’s a girl. It’s thought that acne during pregnancy is caused by the extra hormones. (I’m lucky and have had no acne/spots.) Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #5: Cravings
People believe that if you are craving salty foods while pregnant, you can count on having a boy. If you crave sweets, fruit, and orange juice, you are having a little girl. (Bit of both – craving saltier stuff but can’t get enough of oranges.) Prediction outcome: INCONCLUSIVE
Old Wives Tale #6: Skin under Left Eye
The eye test is when a “V” or “branches” appear when you pull down the skin under your left eye. If you see a “V” or “branches” in the white part, you’re having a girl. (This is just bizarre – but I guess I see branches...) Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #7: Time of Conception
The person that is most aggressive in bed at the time of conception is the opposite of what the baby will be. (I feel like nobody needs to know the answer to this one!) Prediction outcome: INCONCLUSIVE
Old Wives Tale #8: Legs
If your legs get really big, you’re having a boy. If your legs stay in shape and lean, it’s a girl. (I’ve put on weight on my thighs – but haven’t changed shape massively.) Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #9: Moodiness
If you are really moody, you are having a girl since you have extra girl hormones in you. (I think we know the answer to this one!) Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #10: Chinese Gender Chart
The Chinese Gender Chart claims to have an accuracy rate of over 90%. It is based on how old the mother is at conception and the month that she conceived. Find out your prediction/or whether the Chinese Chart was right about your baby's gender here: https://www.thebump.com/chinese-gender-chart Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #11: Mum's Beauty
You are having a girl if your beauty disappears during pregnancy. It is said that the girl “steals” the mother’s beauty. If you think that pregnancy has never made you look more beautiful, a little boy it is. (I ain’t blooming that’s for sure.) Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #12: Dream of Sex of Baby
If you have dreams that you are having a boy, you will have a girl. If you dream about having a girl, it will be a boy. Dreams show the opposite of what you are having. (Now this one is interesting as I have been dreaming boy – husband girl…) Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #13: Clumsy vs. Graceful
If the pregnant woman is graceful throughout her pregnancy, she’s having a girl. If she becomes clumsy, she’s having a boy. (I'm clumsy and don’t think I have a graceful bone in my body – never mind when I’m pregnant.) Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #14: Side You Most Rest On
If a pregnant woman prefers to lay on her left side, she’s having a boy. If she prefers resting on her right side, she’s having a girl. Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #15: Dad’s Weight Gain
If the dad-to-be gains weight while you are pregnant, it’s a girl. If he doesn’t gain weight, you’re having a boy. Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #16: Breast Test
If a pregnant woman’s left breast is larger than the right breast, she’s having a girl. If the right breast is larger, it’s a boy. Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #17: What Do You Think?
71% of the time, the mom-to-be knows what she is having. Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #18: Morning Sickness
If you had a smooth pregnancy with no morning sickness, it’s a boy. If you were sick or felt really nauseous during your pregnancy, count on a girl. (I did have nausea – but thankfully wasn’t too bad.) Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #19: Areolae
If your areolae have darkened, it’s a boy. If they haven't, it’s a girl. Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #20: Protein
When a pregnant woman craves meat and cheese, count on a boy. Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #21: Feet
Are your feet colder now that you are pregnant? If so, you just might be having a boy. If your feet have stayed the same before pregnancy and during, you’re having a little girl. Prediction outcome: GIRL
Old Wives Tale #22: Headaches
If you are having headaches, you might be carrying a boy. Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #23: Baby Names
It is said that when you can only think of specific names for a boy or a girl, you will have that particularly baby. (We are still stuck on girls' names.) Prediction outcome: BOY
Old Wives Tale #24: Urine
What color is your pee? If it is bright yellow, you will have a little boy. If your urine is a dull yellow, plan on a girl. Prediction outcome: GIRL
It looks like….it’s a BOY! But time will tell….
So what are my highs and lows of the week?
High of the week: My husband has been able to postpone the course he was due on which would have meant he would have been away in a few weeks and over the due date and weeks after birth. I didn't quite realise how much this was worrying me until he told me he had been able to change the dates. I just burst out crying in relief. He may be away here and there over the next few months - but much more certain - if not 98% certain (don't want to tempt anything too much as things can change like a drop of a hat in the military) he won't have an 9-11 hour car journey to tackle once I go into labour.
Low of the week: My back pain. It seems to mostly be my left side but it is so uncomfortable and I'm not sleeping very well as can't get comfy. And when I do eventually get comfy I need the flipping toilet - again!
Pregnancy rage: Could it be? I haven't had any pregnancy rage this week. Although my husband will be boozing this weekend so sure that will change...
Product of the week: Every single thing we now have for the baby! The Mamas and Papas nursery furniture my husband's parents bought us is so beautiful, I keep going into the nursery and looking at it all. Also, my mum and dad have ordered us the iCandy Peach stroller and carrycot in Royal Blue. LOVE. LOVE. LOVE.
Advice of the week: 'You're pregnant - you can eat chocolate for breakfast.' This was advice I gave myself the other morning - so basically I am justifying eating chocolate for breakfast. If there is anytime you can, without guilt eat chocolate for breakfast, it is when you are pregnant right? And at Christmas - and Easter - oh and your birthday. Anytime you fancy it to be honest.
Exercise: CrossFit x 2 sessions. I am determined to carry on for as long as I can but I'm not going to lie - it is becoming more of a struggle! Still walking the dog every day too but I find about 15 minutes in I want to lie down and I say 'walk' - I have a full on wobble now. I feel like I look like one of those weebles on South Shields beach? Google them and you will understand!
Cravings: White Kinder Bueno - if you haven't already tried one of these - do it now. I bought a pack of eight yesterday - five went missing quite quickly after buying them...
Oh and one last thing - the husband's moustache has gone!!! Hallelujah.
Let me know your gender predictions for Baby Bear and if any of the old wives' tales worked for you!
Royal Marine Wife. Mum to Rafe.