1. YOU CAN’T PLAN ANYTHING
Want to book a holiday? Want to know how long they’ll be away for? Want to know whether you need to shave your legs on Friday? Ha! Things constantly change and you can never plan anything with certainty. And if you do - it will change!
2. YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE GETTING INTO
Did I? ‘You chose this life,’ did I? A what not to say to a military spouse.
It is lonely. Whether you are on your own, have children, live on a patch or live close to family. It is lonely. Once the day is done and you sit on the sofa in the evening the one person you want to talk to is more likely to be away than be there.
4. COUNTING DOWN THE DAYS
You go between counting down the days until they are home to when they are home, just wishing time would slow down. How is it Sunday again?
5. PART OF A UNIQUE CLUB
Whether they are your neighbours, you have never met, you’ve been friends for years - you’re part of an amazing group of women who are the only ones who truly know what you are going through and will be there for you whether that be a phone call, message or a wild night out.
6. YOU LOSE COUNT OF POSTCODES
You finally get settled and then it’s time to move again. Lucky to see so much of the country but equally - you just want to stay put for longer than 2 years.
7. MAGNOLIA WALLS
Married quarters are a beautiful mix of well, magnolia. You will come to loathe those magnolia walls!
8. MISSED PHONE CALL IS HEARTBREAKING
You end up being glued to your phone but if you miss a phone call, well you will cry - a lot. Especially if they’re overseas and you don’t know when they can ring back.
9. SUNDAY DREAD
The Sunday night dread is real. Having to watch them pack their bags, knowing you’ll be flying solo for a week, weeks, months. It’s hard.
10. YOU FEEL LUCKY
As much as it is hard, you get to experience the butterflies that are sometimes lost in long-term relationships when it’s been months and they're finally on their way home. Nothing beats deployment coming-home butterflies.
Royal Marine Wife. Mum to Rafe.